By Caitlin Donohue and Kelly Lovemonster. Top image via the Lexington Club’s 2013 NYE party

You know what’s really scary? The thought of a San Francisco with no Lexington Club. Owner Lila Thirkield just announced the news that after 18 years of being the iconic dyke spot, the Lex is no longer located within a queer population that can support it and that she’ll be selling the bar. From her statement released today:

When a business caters to about 5% of the population, it has tremendous impact when 1% of them leave. When 3% or 4% of them can no longer afford to live in the neighborhood, or the City, it makes the business model unsustainable.

Please know that if I thought The Lexington Club could be saved, I would not be writing this. I understand what a huge loss this is to the community. It is difficult and painful to lose our queer spaces. However, my faith in queer San Francisco still runs deep. It is the best place in the world and dykes and queers are still an integral part of this city. They always will be.

YIKES. So top of your list this weekend: VISIT THE LEX. And probably Wild Side West, which will soon be the Bay’s only lesbian bar and doubtless needs your dollars. After that, here’s some more cool stuff.


SHOCKTOBERFEST: THE BLOODY DEBUTANTE (8PM // $30-35 // SHOWS RUN THROUGH NOV. 22 // THE HYPNODROME // MORE) The Thrillpeddlers’ annual Halloween stage show is all about the fearsome taxidermists, devil debutantes and death-daring journalists this year. Should be really gross and gory — and if that turns you on, get one of the super-private, pillow-covered loveseats and get R-rated with your boo.

“You already knnnnoooooowwwwww!” shouts New Orlean’s bounce diva Big Freedia. But if you don’t know and haven’t had the pleasure of seeing Freedia’s azz everywhere show, find out tonight at LIGHTS DOWN LOW FEATURING BIG FREEDIA (9PM-2AM // $20 // MEZZANINE // MORE). The evening’s bill is an all star line-up of some of our fave San Francisco acts including DJ Workalook, Double Duchess and Saturn Rising.


120 MINUTES PRESENTS GROUNDISLAVA (9PM-2AM // $15 // PUBLIC WORKS // MORE). Get ready for the beauty that is the audio-visual experience of 120 Minutes, the dark, bass-heavy, atmospheric dance club produced by resident DJs S4NtA_MU3rTE and Chauncey_CC. The night will feature Venice, California DJ and producer Groundislava and his eclectic electronic music.

STEAM VS. ODYSSEY (10PM-2AM // $5 // POWERHOUSE // MORE) Walter Gomez’ shower fetish party turns four, and is inviting Robin Simmons and Elaine Denham’s house music play space to kick it in celebration.

HI SCORES, GO DARK, DIEM (9PM-LATE // $8-10 // BABELAND // MORE) Babeland Gallery promises “analog synth landscapes, acid techno/house, video synths, video games,” at this two-story show in Lake Merritt. Get tired of the music (you won’t) and you can check out the icecream bar and something billed as a “Myspace fashion show”.


CLARION ALLEY BLOCK PARTY (NOON-10PM // FREE // CLARION ALLEY // MORE) Hella bands play in the mural alley that has sponsored 700 wall pieces over its past two decades of existence. Check sets by Ancient Wing, The Younger Lovers, and more amid the paintscapes.

RIOT GRR (8PM-2AM // FREE // LONE STAR SALOON // MORE) DJ Crowderism and Jimmy Swear throw a riot grrl party in a bear bar, so that should be all you need to know about this — but just FYI, tonight the guest DJ is Brontez Purnell and you’ll get a drag number from Linty.

Ru Paul’s Drag Race contestant Nina Flowers

San Francisco drag celeb Juanita More and Locoya Hill Entertainment present HALLOWEEN RUNWAY MASSACRE III (9PM-2AM // $25 // BEAT BOX // MORE) the most fabulous Halloween party in SF. Hosted by all your fave SF queer dance parties, the evening includes three $500 cash prizes for winners of a runway fashion show in categories “sexy”, “frightening” and “fierce”. NYC’s DJ duo The Carry Nation and Ru Paul’s Drag Race contestant Nina Flowers will be spinning music all night long.


PASSPORT (NOON-4PM // $25 FOR PASSPORT BOOKLET // 24TH STREET // MORE) Spend the day cruising the Mission with a “passport” you’ll pick up from the mini-park on 24th Street and York. Once you have it, walk to see the work of 16 different artists, who will all stamp your passport to create an original work of art. Don’t believe it? The passports from past editions of Passport have gone for $1,000 on eBay.

SUNDAY MASS :: SLAUGHTER HOUSE (9PM-2AM // $10 PRESALE, $13 DOOR // PUBLIC WORKS // MORE). ‘Tis the season for all spooky things and parties that go bump in the night. Join the Sunday Mass crew at Public Works for an evening of house music and fright. Featuring DJs Robert Jeffery, Blaus, Tracer and Supertino. Freaky costumes are highly encouraged.

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