America is in a bleak moment and we’re tired. But we’re not beat. And though things are hard, it’s moments like these when you need your community the most. So refuel, recharge — but at some point pick up the phone and call a loved one. FYI, you might find them in the following places this weekend.


The ultimate photo duo Cle Torres and Manuel Rodrigues will be showcasing their dynamic works (self portraits, party moments and obvs xxx moments) at SAD BOYS PHOTO SHOW (7-10PM // FREE // DOWN AT LULU’S // MORE). The show hosted at vintage shop Down at Lulu will also bring you live performances from some of our fave Bay Area performers like drag celeb Persia, a live DJ set by Fanciulla Gentile. Obvs you’ll be able to shop all the vintage goodies while you party at this hella cute East Bay art turn up.

Pier 15’s Exploratorium transforms into the ultimate date night the first Thursday of every month. AFTER DARK: GLOW (6-10PM // $15, $10 MEMBERS // EXPLORATORIUM // MORE) is the eccentric science museum’s 18+ event with boozy drinks, performances and live music. Tonight the museum celebrates its last Thursday of the year with a show dedicate to all of the lights. The Exploratorium’s Ron Hipschman will be leading a light display of a larger then life LED piece “Litewall“; you can check the glorious sparkling “Core Chandelier” designed by Mark Lottor full of cascading lights.


Bilingual Mission newspaper El Tecolote put together the second annual LATINO/A LIFE IN THE BAY (6-9:30PM // ERIC QUEZADA CENTER FOR CULTURE AND POLITICS // MORE), a group photography exhibition featuring work from the paper’s contributors and winners of its community photo contest.

If the above gif doesn’t bring a smile to your face you’re probably lacking a soul. Ryan Crowder brings his collection of crocheted fetish wear to the Stone Pony for a very big YARNESS POP UP SHOP (6-10PM // FREE // STONE PONY // MORE).


Sagittarius club kid Boy Young celebrates his bday at his super weird (like in all the best ways) party WOMAN 6 (9PM-2AM // $5 // THE KNOCKOUT // MORE). The evening’s sounds will be curated by one of 4U Mag’s fave DJs and collaborators Primo. Oh and like the strangest most interesting midnight drag show you’ve ever seen with a super special secret guest. Come, it’s going to be really cute.


If you’re already feeling that pressure to honor your loved one with the perfect piece of consumerism, the LA PEÑA CRAFT FAIR (10AM-4PM // FREE // LA PEÑA CULTURAL CENTER // MORE) beats the mall. The community center hosts a bunch of sellers hawking the jewelry, clothes, and other treasures they made themselves.

Black Salt Collective’s Grace Rosario exhibition in collaboration with her father Olen Perkins equals so many heart emojis. THIN LEATHER CLOSING PARTY (2-6PM // FREE // E.M. WOLFMAN GENERAL INTEREST SMALL BOOKSTORE // MORE) is your last chance to check out this show about family, love and healing.

REBECCA SOLNIT (5PM // FREE // CITY LIGHTS BOOKS // MORE) is one of those writers — one of the best in the Bay Area today — who can write about anything. She’s covered communities after natural disasters, gentrification in San Francisco, even walking, in her multitudinous books. But she can, because of impeccable research and phrasing skills. Her latest book of essays Encyclopedia of Trouble and Spaciousness covers everything from the Arab Spring to Iceland, which probably only she could do. Today she’s in conversation with author Peter Turchis, who also has a new book out.

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